RELATIONAL NEGLIGENCE </3

God is teaching me to extend grace and forgiveness in all matters of the heart but He is also teaching me that extending grace does not mean tolerating relational negligence.

When a friend or a partner dismisses a basic relational need, disappointment or a request for communication altogether —that’s not mutual care. Even if the intent is not malicious, it’s passive.

A passive individual might not initiate activities, avoid conflict, or let the other person make all the decisions, which can create a power imbalance and leave the other partner feeling unsupported.

Relational negligence occurs when we consistently fail to attend to the emotional and physical needs of our relationships, whether intentionally or unintentionally! This pattern of behavior can create lasting damage. 

Ultimately, passivity is a lack of love as a practice.

Signs of Relational Negligence:

• Chronic emotional unavailability or disconnection

• Repeatedly dismissing or minimizing partner's needs

• Consistent failure to follow through on relationship commitments

• Pattern of prioritizing other activities over quality time together

• Lack of effort in maintaining emotional intimacy

However, do not misread someone’s emotional unavailability, lack of relational skill or absence as a reflection of your worth.

Let it be a reflection of their capacity, not your value.

* a pause for reflection *

We are called to love everyone —but access is sacred.
And sacred things must be earned, honored and sustained.

Gaurd your heart —not in fear, but in wisdom. (Proverbs 4:23)

Extend forgiveness, practice love and move onwards with grace.

Until next shape,
Mango/Kat𓍯𓂃𓏧♡

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